1st wedding anniversary
I can’t believe how much time has gone by. It feels like we got married only a few months ago! I know that sounds cliche, but it really blows my mind that we’ve already bee through our first year of marriage. A lot has happened in these past 12 months: we both took on new positions at work, Trent sold his car and bought a new one that is definitely a “project,” celebrated both of my sisters and my mom getting engaged, and we built a house that we will be closing on next week. While it may not meet the crazy benchmark for other newlyweds out there, it certainly kept us busy enough to let the time go unnoticed. Next thing we know it will be Thanksgiving, Christmas and finally a new year.
The first year of marriage for Trent and I has been wonderful. There were definitely stresses, don’t get me wrong! We dealt with the typical things such as how we wanted to merge our finances, how to put together a savings plan for our home, and how we want to manage time between our families particularly during the holidays. The thought of all the paperwork and phone calls to merge our lives together makes my head hurt. We’ve argued about what bank to go with (I love mine, he loves his) and whether or not we should keep separate private checking accounts for things like gifts or personal spending money. The question is always “how much do we merge together?” Not quite sure yet, but we’ll figure it out. Saving for a home was a doozy. It was tough, but I will say I didn’t know how to SAVE until I had to save for a house. Now I look at my bank account and think “why the hell didn’t you do that sooner?”
All in all: it’s been an amazing year. I never thought that I could fall in love with Trent anymore than I already had. It’s wild that this year also marks the 7th year we’ve been together and the 12th year we’ve known each other. Perhaps that was why this first year was relatively painless: we already knew a lot about each other and working through things we disagree on was something we were already well-versed in. My biggest piece of advice to anyone newly engaged or in a serious relationship: don’t be afraid to take your time. Right now it seems painful and it’s easy to be impatient because you love your significant other so much that if your heart could scream it would. Don’t waste time focusing too much on planning the future (because we all know life has a way of throwing curve balls and changing all of our plans anyway) or dwelling in the past; try your best to live every day in the present and enjoy each moment. What is meant to be, will be.
To Trent: Thank you for all of the love you give me, for always being my cheerleader and never saying “no” to fried chicken and biscuits (much to my waistline’s dismay). The most amazing years will always be the ones with you by my side. You’ve brought so much joy and adventure to my life. You’re that puzzle piece that just fits right in. I love you and can’t wait to continue making memories with you!
Cheers xx lolo
Venue: The Fields of Blackberry Cove
Photography: Kellie Kano
Gown: Monique Lhuillier
Flowers: Floressence Flowers
Cake: Just Simply Delicious